Premature ejaculation – help, he comes too early!

Being the first to finish is something we often strive for. If you eat all your vegetables as a kid, you get dessert. If you finish your degree in three years instead of four, you get a pat on the back (and probably a lucrative job). But if you’re first in bed, there may be less recognition.

Do you know this situation? Does your partner ejaculate earlier than you want them to? Are your sexcapades cut short because he keeps climaxing within seconds? Do you want him to last longer in bed?

In this guide, we’ll discuss the causes and give you ways to delay your partner’s premature ejaculation.

We’ll also introduce you to some of the best sexual wellness products that will help you and your partner have abundant fun in the bedroom again! So be sure to read to the end.

What is premature ejaculation?

What if you come too soon? Or what does premature ejaculation actually mean? In very simplified terms – it is the condition when the male partner ejaculates earlier than expected during sexual intercourse.

According to guidelines for the diagnosis and treatment of premature ejaculation, applies when the man climaxes within one minute after sexual stimulation. So this is really early and certainly not the case for every man.

However, if you and your partner are not happy with how quickly you or your partner ejaculates, even if it takes more than a minute, you both can still counteract it.

What are the causes when he comes too soon?

The man comes too early? There are many reasons for this: there can be physiological factors, but most cases are psychological.

Anxiety, stress and infrequent sexual activity can contribute. But the most common reason is actually bad habits.

If the average man masturbated in his youth, it was probably a clandestine activity. He learned to orgasm while feeling very sexually aroused, somewhat ashamed, and afraid his mother might come in. This combination meant that he worked furiously to pack his gear and reach the goal.

Without consciously meaning to, many adult men train themselves to go through the sexual response cycle (from the onset of arousal to orgasm) as quickly as possible. As they gain sexual experience, some men learn to last longer, while others fail to do so.

Premature ejaculation – What to do?

Don’t torture yourself any longer with the question, “Why does he come too soon?”-take your happiness into your own hands.

Before your partner considers seeking medical help, we recommend trying the following tips, tricks and behavioral techniques that delay orgasm. Sometimes this can already fix the problem.

Below you will find some of the self-help methods that man himself or both of you can try together.

Note that these methods may not work for everyone, as there may be an underlying physical or psychological problem that needs professional help – but it’s worth a try!

Start-and-stop method

This technique requires stimulating the penis until you are close to orgasm, then abruptly stop! By the way, this technique is also known as “edging”.

Now you have to wait 30 seconds until you feel that you are back in control of the sexual response.

This should be repeated at least three times before letting go, and it should be practiced regularly and until you have learned to fully control your sexual response.

Pause Squeeze Technique

This technique is similar to the previous one, but with some squeezing. The penis must first be stimulated for a few seconds until you are close to climax.

After that, sexual stimulation must be interrupted and the glans must be gently squeezed for 30 seconds or until the erection subsides.

This can be followed by another stimulation and then another pause with squeezing. The process should be repeated 3-4 times until you reach orgasm.

Distracting thinking

As the name suggests, the sufferer should think of non-sexual things during sex. Preferably something completely banal – for example, the brands of cereal you saw in the supermarket, or you imagine the menu of your favorite fast food chain.

We understand that thinking about things other than your partner and the act during sex sounds absurd, but some men have found this technique beneficial and have been able to last longer in bed as a result.

Masturbation before sexual intercourse

Another common behavioral technique is masturbation 1 to 2 hours before the act. Ejaculation before sex can desensitize the penis and reduce the pleasurable and orgasm-inducing sensations.

If you’re worried that jerking off may result in not getting an erection during the actual act, in most cases this concern is unfounded.

Younger men only need a few minutes to be ready to have sex again. However, if one is older, it can take a little longer, in some cases as long as 12-24 hours.

Pelvic floor exercises

Contrary to popular belief, men can also do pelvic floor exercises. A stronger pelvic floor can help you gain control over your sexual response.

However, don’t think of this as a miracle cure for premature ejaculation. We recommend doing pelvic floor exercises in addition to trying the other methods on the list.

First of all, the pelvic floor muscles need to be determined. The best way to find out is to urinate and stop the flow of urine midstream. You can feel the muscles that tighten when you stop urinating – these are the pelvic floor muscles.

• Lie on the bed and assume a comfortable position.
• Tighten muscles and hold for about 3 seconds
• Release muscles and relax for 3 seconds, then tense again
• Focus on the pelvic floor muscles and do not overdo it, otherwise muscles in other areas such as the abdomen and thighs may tighten as well
• Do not hold your breath
• Continue until the desired number of repetitions are achieved
• 3 sets of 10 repetitions per day are enough to achieve good results

Change of diet

Another home remedy is to eat foods that are supposed to help with premature ejaculation. As with pelvic floor exercises, this can only be a help; don’t expect this to work miraculously.

Below you will find some foods that should be included in the diet if premature ejaculation is a problem. They are rich in vitamins and minerals such as zinc and magnesium, which improve sexual function and maintain an erection.

• Almonds
• Banana
• Beef
• Chickpeas
• Dark chocolate
• Garlic
• Kidney beans
• Lamb
• Oysters
• Pumpkin seeds
• Sesame seeds
• Soybeans
• Spinach
• Walnut
• Yogurt
• Food supplements

If a special diet must be followed or one does not have time to include the above foods in the diet, one can take supplements instead to get the vitamins and minerals needed.

However, this should always be discussed with a doctor, even more so if one has health problems, and to find out if the following supplements are safe for the person.

Side effects of these supplements may include nausea, vomiting, stomach pain, etc.

Ayurvedic herbal medicines (such as Aunch Bej, Kamini Vidrawan Ras, and Yauvanamrit Vati) – According to this 2017 study, males taking any of these medicines experienced a slight increase in time to ejaculation during sex.

Since prescription or harmful substances are said to be included, these remedies are generally discouraged to some extent.

Chinese herbal medicines (such as yimusake tablets and qilin pills) – In the same 2017 study, taking various Chinese herbal medicines was reported to increase time to ejaculation by about 2 minutes.

Preparations with Chinese labeling, which are not known on the European market and where it is not really known what is contained in them, are not recommended.

Zinc supplements – As mentioned in the last tip, zinc is known to support sexual function and maintain an erection.

Penis pumps

Another pleasure toy that can help with premature ejaculation is a penis pump.

This device consists of two parts: the cylindrical tube in which you put your penis and a manual or automatic pump. It is supposed to make the penis firmer and more durable.

No idea how a penis pump works? This guide to penis pump application will help.

Fleshlights

As mentioned before, masturbation helps control premature ejaculation. So now it’s training, training, training!

To practice as realistically as possible and have a good time doing it, it’s worth buying a Fleshlight. These masturbators are the closest thing to a vagina (or anus) and regular use will help you avoid coming right after 5 seconds.

If you have no idea about a Fleshlight and how to use it, these Fleshlight tips will help.

 

Premature ejaculation: frequently asked questions

Do you still have questions about premature ejaculation? Below we have answered some of the frequently asked questions.

1. what is the best sex position for someone with premature ejaculation?

Here you can rely on the classic rider position. The great thing about it is that the partner is in control, which prevents the man from thrusting violently and climaxing quickly.

2. How common is premature ejaculation?

It is reported to affect 20-30% of sexually active people and it is the most common sexual dysfunction in men.

3. Can I still satisfy my partner in this condition?

Yes, you can still satisfy your partner through non-penetrative sexual acts, such as oral sex and finger play. Once your partner has reached orgasm, you can continue with penetration. Now there is no pressure to last longer.

4. What happens if premature ejaculation is not treated?

If a person suffers from premature ejaculation, it can be very stressful for them to have sex because they may worry about ejaculating too soon. This can also have a negative impact on self-esteem and lead to psychological stress and relationship problems.

5. Can women also ejaculate prematurely?
There are rare cases of premature orgasms in women. However, studies are limited as it is a rare phenomenon that is not even a major problem for women as they are capable of multiple orgasms.

 

Takeaway

It can be a problem for both parties: The boyfriend comes too early or you yourself feel like you can’t last long enough for your girlfriend.

Sure – premature ejaculation is stressful, but in most cases, a few tips and tricks can already make a difference – and then the problem doesn’t seem as big as you initially thought.

However, before you take any medications and supplements or even resort to dubious products that promise a 100% cure for premature ejaculation, please always consult a doctor first! Some of these so-called gels or pills may not be approved and may do more harm than good.

Treating this condition takes time, but with perseverance and following our tips, you will soon be able to last longer in bed.